I’ve been putting off writing this post for weeks, because I’ve been scared to step into my potential. I hit the age of 25 and realized that I’ve reached a very new and intimidating place in life. Up to this point, there hasn’t been any pressure to have a skillset, to give of myself, to showcase talents. And although I am proud of my past accomplishments, they all seem so easy compared to what I am up against now. I’ve backpacked solo around the world; I’ve obtained various degrees, survived tumultuous relationships, mended broken ties with my family, gained confidence in my beliefs… I have taken huge strides toward self-love and am finally comfortable in my own skin. But here I am now, a stable person, with no clue how to share my gifts with the world. Or even what my gifts are. My personality has landed me a “good job” at a great company, I was born into an abundant and loving community, I had enough guidance to know where to search for truth and healing, and I’m brave enough to go for what I want. But nothing from my past has been an outward expression of my creativity, my soul, my desires and dreams. I have yet to face my biggest fear, and to move in its direction. It has been active practice to even say it out loud: “I want to be a writer, a life coach, an owner of a wellness center”…And not to shrink away in fear of failing.
In yoga today, my practice brought my insecurities to light. As I moved from three-legged dog into crescent lunge, I noticed that my hamstring felt a little tweaky. While I normally lift my leg high above my body before lunging, today I half-assed it.
I literally told myself that I wasn’t trying hard enough.
And then with my breath, I realized that I was in fact showing my body compassion in this time of pain, and that in fact it would be cruel and destructive to push myself to where I normally go or beyond. I was actually honoring my body by being gentle on myself, and that was good.
Another thought that recurred in today’s practice was I’m not good enough to be in the front row. There are some really advanced students in class today.
And of course, with my breath, I realized how this was another form of self-cruelty. I told myself that I have no one to measure up against; I am my own being, and learning my very own unique lessons. The person next to me has nothing to do with my highly individual story, and her yoga practice says nothing about me.
And then, my teacher said the most necessary words before concluding class: “Our practice changes from day to day. Don’t compare yourself to yesterday; be here in this moment”. A simple reminder, not unique to this class, acted as the medicine I needed to affirm my revelations of self-love. My yoga practice has equipped me with the wisdom and inner strength to face my fears, and to whisper myself the encouragement I need from the inherent wisdom I hold within.
Through yoga, I learn exactly what I need to learn each day. It’s okay to be where I am, and it’s okay to take my time. Why am I not a yoga teacher, life coach and business owner, yet, like some of my younger friends? It’s not because I’m less talented, too lazy or too insecure. It’s because I’m on a very special path unique to my spirit, and however long it takes is fine. Putting more pressure on myself, pushing my body to the limit, or choosing an arbitrary goal to work on for one hour each day will not necessarily put me on the fast track to “success”. It might only exhaust my spirit and send me in the wrong direction, only to struggle more in backtracking my way onto my path, again.
But honoring my emotional, mental and physical states, knowing when to take it easy and when I’m in a place to express my creativity and passions—this is how I will glide with grace and ease along my path. I am not in competition with any one. I am here to bless the people in my life with the very unique combination of quirks, experiences and gifts that make me who I am. Each person moves at her own speed, learns in her own body, interacts from her own place in the universe, and is not to be compared to any one else. To do so would be to question the perfect design of God, love and the life-force that flows through us.
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